Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Holiday Jail Guests

FROM WHERE I SIT      Jail Guests at the Holidays  Pat Spilseth

As the first snowflakes float past my windows, I find myself thinking about the annual guests who turned up at the jail around the holidays.  I’m not talking family; I’m talking guys who bunked for three months at the jail, the large red brick building where my family lived when Dad was a sheriff during the Fifties.  With the snowflakes came our “regulars” appeared, Blackie and Pretty Boy. 

To two young girls, Pretty Boy Verdi and Blackie were interesting company.  They provided Mom and Dad with teachable lessons for their two impressionable daughters.  We heard the same message over and over, “Remember, you’re known by the company you keep.”  “Study, and don’t waste your education.  Make something of yourself.”   “Early to bed; early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.”  I never understood that admonition about wealthy and wise because there was no hint of wealth for us living at the jail!

Dad and Mom recognized the value of a good education and expected us to attend college.  It wasn’t an option.  Often the folks would sadly relate that Blackie had a university education, but here he was in jail, not living in a nice house and having a good job.  I guess today we’d recognize the problem of alcoholism better than folks did years back.   Alcohol, probably even depression, had gotten the best of this smart man.  But he was always kind and interesting to Barbie and me.  We liked Blackie.  He was quite an athlete, a gifted acrobat.  He’d flop those jail mattresses on the metal floor of the jail walkway near the barred window and perform flips, head stands, all sorts of acrobatic tricks.  My friends and I would cheer him on as we enjoyed his performance outside those windows.

Pretty Boy’s time was consumed with combing his blonde curls and flirting with the girls who came to visit him at the jail windows.  There wasn’t much conversation, just flirty eyes and showing off his muscles.  I was pretty good at eavesdropping back in those days when I was a little kid in grade school with pig tails.  They knew I didn’t understand all they were talking about. 

Maybe our jail guests kept returning because they enjoyed sitting around our Christmas tree with our family.  Maybe they liked to hear Dad read the Christmas story from Luke in our cracked leather bible.  Or maybe they just liked to watch a bit of TV on our big console set in the living room after the Bible story.  After opening presents, we always watched Lawrence Welk with those harmonizing Lennon Singers and Myron Floren on the accordion.

Or perhaps it was Mom’s holiday meal of Capon chicken, mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes, cranberries and lefse that drew them back to the jail.  In their cells the guys would eat holiday dinner on special dishes, black and white tin jail dishes, with Mom’s fancy paper holiday napkins on their trays.  The folks drew the line about eating with the prisoners.  Our family ate kind of fancy at holiday time.  Mom would set the dining table with her wedding gift hobnail glasses and Sunday china dishes.  She’d use her holiday tablecloth she’d made with her crafty friends, the decorated cloth with the sequined snowflakes.  Dad swore every year that he’d eaten sequins all year long.  But the biggest reason they couldn’t dine with us: Mom broke out a bottle of Mogan David wine once a year. That was unexpected as Mom was an adamant teetotaler...no alcohol for her!  Look at what alcohol did to these good men in jail, she’d say.  “They’re not bad men.  They only made bad choices.”  But the wine was our very special family treat: we’d “pretend” to enjoy sipping a thimble sized glass of theat sickeningly sweet beverage.  We felt like we were sophisticated grownups when we sipped the wine.

Then came Paul.  One year the snow brought an extra special guest to our jail.  Paul joined our motley crew in the jail’s bullpen for the holidays.  I remember Paul had had a poor history of bad checks and bouncing from wife to wife.  Ladies were always attracted to charming Paul.  He married several women at a time.  His smile captured hearts everywhere.  Even Dad like Paul, and he wasn’t easily fooled.

Paul offered to “redecorate” Mom’s kitchen during his winter jail visit.  He stenciled a border of pink flowers, green leaves and stems near the kitchen ceiling.  Mom enjoyed Paul humming tunes and working with her as she made meals for our family and the prisoners.  Paul continued even when the Courthouse gang appeared at the kitchen table for morning and afternoon coffee and cookies or cake.  We always had guests around the kitchen table.  Nobody could stay away from Mom’s famous devil’s food cake with rich chocolate frosting or her chocolate chips and date filled butter cookies. 

It’s that time of the year once again.  I wonder what happened to our “holiday regulars”.  Just like Mom and Dad, I’m quite certain Blackie, Pretty Boy and Paul have passed on.  The Pope County red-brick jail is no more.  Jail guests have changed; now prisoners are locked up in secure cells, not associating with the sheriff’s family.  Certainly there are few sheriffs running a jail like Dad did.  My family sure did enjoy our Mayberry or Lake Woebegone life at the jail in Glenwood, Minnesota, in the Fifties.     920 words

 

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Friday, November 23, 2012

Some Things Never Change

FROM WHERE I SIT   Some Things Never Change in this Unfamiliar World   NOV. 10, 2012I

America is anticipating Macys’ Thanksgiving Day Parade and stuffing ourselves with turkey.  Thanksgiving is a cherished tradition of gathering family and friends to remember our many blessings.  It all started with the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag Indians gathering for a meal in 1621.   President Abe Lincoln decreed that Thanksgiving would fall on the last Thursday of November.  Later President Gerald R. Ford moved Thanksgiving to the fourth Thursday in November to create a longer Christmas shopping season. 

Some traditions never change.  Ninety percent of Americans choose a plumb, stuffed turkey for their Thanksgiving meal.  We watch Macy’s Thanksgiving parade in New York City on TV and younger folks watch the annual Charlie Brown Thanksgiving special. 

BUT, “The times are a changin...”  The day after America’s “close” November election, my emails were filled with comments about America’s changing world views.  Our entire world seems to be spinning faster, values and lifestyles changing, and technology is making changes in our traditional world that some find hard to adapt to.   Here are a few emails I received:

“I am trying to recover from the election last night.  We were taught to work hard, be honest and get that education so we can amount to something.  I think we are slipping into the gimmie mindset and that everyone should be equal.  Socialism is not in my genes.”

“I hardly recognize my America.  The chasm between the youth of today and me is so wide - all because of technology.  I know I cannot know their world and they cannot understand my prehistoric age without computers. We live worlds apart and I am the one who is scrambling to find friends with my same values and memories. 

“It's hard for me to see how this increasingly socialized society is better than the one we grew up with, where you worked and if you were successful, you would reap the benefits.  I like the philosophy of 'a rising tide lifts all boats' as opposed to the confiscatory policies that we will likely see in Obama's attempt to equalize outcome.  It's hard not to feel that we are doomed.”

The election of 2012 is over.  Our country’s views have changed, at least drifted from traditional republican and democrat ideas.  We’ve become more polarized.  No longer is “compromise” acceptable.  Today our nation is focused on immigration rights, who will pay the most taxes for they are sure to rise, and there’s a huge issue between big government versus individual choice. 

Fox news host Bill O’Reilly stated, “The white establishment is now the minority.  The demographics are changing.  It’s not a traditional America anymore.”

America has changed.  According to an editorial in a November Investor’s Business Daily, African-Americans made up a record 13% of the electorate in 2012.  Latinos make up 14% of Colorado voters; three-fourths of them supported the president.  Nationwide, roughly three of every 19 voters were minorities this election.  African-Americans chose Obama by 93%.  Latinos by 71% and Asian-Americans are Americans fastest-growing minority, by 73%. 

Have we reentered the protest era of the sixties?  Bob Dylan’s well-remembered lyrics to “The times, they are a changing” have resurfaced.  Change is afloat.  This election showed that we are a different nation.  We are a multihued, multicultural country demanding new policies on voter registration, immigration, religious tolerance, respect for civil unions, & legitimizing gay marriage. 

“Come senators, congressmen
Please heed the call
Don’t stand in the doorway
Don’t block up the hall
For he that gets hurt
Will be he who has stalled
There’s a battle outside
And it is ragin’
It’ll soon shake our windows
And rattle our walls
For the times they are a-changin’.

“Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don't criticize
What you can't understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is
Rapidly agin'
Please get out of the new one
If you can't lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin'.

The line it is drawn
The curse it is cast
The slow one now
Will later be fast
As the present now
Will later be past
The order is
Rapidly fadin'
And the first one now
Will later be last
For the times they are a-changin'.

Change frightens, but change also invigorates.   Technology has shifted some values in America that many find difficult to accept.  Some days life feels like I’m in a foreign country where no one but me speaks English and pays cash.  Most in my world text; many do not speak to each other eye to eye or write in sentences.  They interact with machines more than have relationships with other people.

BUT, I’m still a traditionalist.  Some things will NOT change in my life.  I’m determined to speak in sentences and have face to face interactions with other people.  Though I use Bill Pay on my computer and Skype to talk with my daughter in Mexico City, I will once more watch Macys’ Thanksgiving parade on the TV and a bit of the Charlie Brown special.  I’ll serve a big turkey on my expanded Thanksgiving table surrounded by family and friends.  We’ll have stuffing, sweet potatoes, cranberry relish, green-bean casserole and pumpkin pie.  But I cut off the tradition of Mom’s thimble glass of sweet Mogan David wine.  892 words